There’s one thing we all have in common here at the Adult Day Care Center. We are not in good mental health condition and many of us are getting treated for our illnesses on a daily basis. Through medication and people who surround us to help us.
Therapy provides the tools and strategies to navigate what is going on in life. Enacting real change in the way we think, behave, and cope on a daily basis.
Since I have been back; getting along with my roommates has been pretty difficult.
Mental Health Advice
Try writing your feelings and thoughts down:
Put a positive spin on being super stressed and overwhelmed. Pressure can challenge and motivate us.
Plan daily low key walks – step away from what you are doing and get some air. Get out of your head and into the world.
Counter negative thoughts with positive ones. They don’t have to consume you.
Write 2 Good things when stuck in a negative thought spiral: hit pause and broaden focus when really upset. Think of things that bring joy, your proud of, & someone who loves you. Think gratitude.
Self-Care: Whatever works for you.
Talk back to your inner voice: the way you talk to yourself in your head or out loud! Learning how to have reassuring & soothing inner voice.
Ask yourself & then what? When your stuck on an anxious thought.
Check alcohol and drug habits.
Have a bedtime ritual.
Accept & Honor Yourself For Who You Are Right Now:
Accept difficulties and who we are right now. While respecting everything we’ve been through led to who we are.
Rebekah and Jacob from the bible Genesis 27 show a good correlation of boundaries of how getting people to do what you want isn’t always a good thing. Loving someone means you love them enough to allow them freedom. Which is owning what is ours while not dismissing what is ours. Or worse trying to own what belongs to others.
Our parents set us up hopefully for success. To make our own decisions in as an adult. While not trying to control their/our decisions. I use to think having my Dad as my payee set him up to be in charge of me. Though today I believe it is closer to freedom.
Today I’d like to talk about setting boundaries and how boundaries help us improve as people.
Alone Time Take alone time from business – we can get so caught up in everyday life that we eventually feel like we are stuck in a rut. When we feel like there is no way out. Before this happens find peace and quiet by yourself. Reflect on yourself and your life away from business.
Away From Negativity – If you have to be around them limit that time. Limit media consumption if it is too negative.
Be Honest & Upfront In A Relationship – Others need to know how feel in a relationship. Maybe they’re getting to close and personal. It’s ok to tell them to back off a little bit.
Taking Responsibility For Self – at the end of the day the only one you have to deal with is yourself. If your not ok than no one around you will be ok.
Allow others to accept their responsibility for themselves & I do not try to accept their responsibility. – You can’t control other people or the way they behave.
Prioritize Your Needs – We don’t always get what we want but we do get what we need.
Get your happiness from gratitude not status – BE grateful for everything you have you don’t know when it’ll be gone.
Be Honest with yourself about what you need & be realisitc – Be realsitic about the things you really need; food, water, and shelter. Don’t think the world owes you something.
Don’t let resentment build up – It’s better just to let it go as soon as you feel it start.
It is not my responsibility to take responsibility for others.
My parents bought some new furniture from Habitat For Humanity yesterday. Two couches and two chairs and two green lamps. All for under $1000. When I was younger my parents used to tell me they would help me furnish my apartment if I didn’t have a wedding.
Watching these two girls make slime all morning. They’ve made all sorts of slime and it’s kind of neat also really annoying. YouTube channels.
Just gave blood at MHMR and took a piss test. Had to come back to the group home last night so I could get this all done today. My son threw a fit because I had to go back to the group home. He wanted to stay with me and Dad and I wouldn’t let him.
Today I’d like to cover self-care ideas with you.
What Is Self-Care?
Taking the necessary steps to do all you can to take care of your health. Learning to love and protect yourself the best you can. Knowing your needs and knowing how to meet them.
Some Self-Care Things You Can Do
Journal: Write about anything also write about what you are grateful about
Take A Walk:
Nap: Lay Down for 20 Minutes at a time
Read: Try to read one chapter a day
Meditation: Try a meditation app and learn from it. One of my favorite is Simple Habit or Headspace
What are some of your favorite ways to take care of yourself? Mine is too get much needed rest and too journal on my blog.
I love my Qalo Ring in Hot Pink it’s comfortable.
This is something we need to do in order to take care of ourselves. We have to be able to take care of ourselves in order to take care of other people and things.
At the center, Ms. Jefferson dropped us off around 8:30 AM. When I got here I got a cup of coffee and smoked a cigarette. After that I laid down in one of the twin beds they have in a special room I’m sitting outside of.
Smoked another cigarette and got another cup of coffee. Now I’m working on my blog. Have $10 with me and an additional $5 to give Ms. Jefferson for the car ride to MHMR tomorrow to get my injection of risperidone. I also need to call CVS and see if they have refills of my prescriptions.
I brought my backpack today to the Center and it’s kind of nice having my laptop to work on. Just wish I had someplace to plug it in so the battery wouldn’t die.
What Is The Day Care Center
This is something included in our price for the group home. Several groups from the group homes get together and we have a shuttle that brings us too and from here. In the morning we have breakfast and later we have lunch. There is a big open room with lots of tables where we can sit at and eat or converse.
There is an open back patio type area with chairs and a couch where we can smoke. We can get up too three cups of coffee every morning. Some special days we even go to the movies. There is a Family Dollar next door that we like to shop at.
How To Help People With Disabilities
As I have said before I have Bipolar, Schizophrenia, and Border Line Personality Disorder. Mostly everybody who is in these types of group homes is part of SSI or SSDI. I have been on SSI since 2012 for about 6 years. They have helped me get my teeth fixed, well now I have dentures. To get my glasses they help with frames and prescription. It takes care of my Psychiatric needs and medications. As well as a regular doctor which I need to go see. I also get free acupuncture which I need to set up.
This situation is not to last forever, in fact, I only have about three more years on SSDI before they re-evaluate me. I could get better in those three years of I could get worse. Though right now I’m needing all the help I can get and I feel this blog helps me out a lot also.
How To Write An Awesome Blog Posts
One of my hopeful ways to improve my way of life is this blog. I’m hoping to make some sort of income from writing this blog. Through affiliate sales, sponsored posts, and ad revenue. I need to make my first $100 first and so far I hope you have enjoyed reading my posts. Right now some of the things on my site are not working the way they are needing too so please bear with me.
Target Audience: I have been trying to get Google Analytics to work as well as the right-hand sidebar. Though neither one seems to work at the moment. I am mainly writing toward people my own age 30-40-year-olds with similar interest who care about their lifestyles.
A Catchy Title
Easy To Read – 5 subheadings for example
SEO – I’m new to the whole SEO thing and am just now learning the ropes of it.
End With A Call-To-Action – allow your reader to feel able to comment and give their insight on what you have just written.
What Kind of Posts to blog about
I like sharing what my day is going like and where I am in life. As well as sharing information on things & places, life & self-help tips, and blogging and work tips.
10 Things You Don’t know about me
How to properly pack a suitcase
A monthly must-haves
Favorite Things About Fall
List Guides – anything the reader can learn from, Checklist Posts – must-haves, Series Posts – 1 in 10, Case Study / Comparison Posts
In order to become a better writer, you have to read a lot and really know what you are writing about. So research is important and takes up a good part of my time.
It’s been a good day working on my laptop at the center. I like having the comfort of my own laptop and being able to access it. Now we’re back at the house. Sitting on top of my twin bed finishing Dr. P and trying to come up with an editorial calendar of some sort and looking at how to improve my blog.
Where do you hang out? What do you like reading? What way do you like to learn?
I had a bad day yesterday and today I just didn’t get out of bed. I had to go to JPS hospital yesterday because I was acting strange and deranged. I kept talking out loud about violence and money. Things that would have put me in jail if I wasn’t careful.
Then JPS sent me to this program at Stop 6 that isn’t even available. I started and gladly stopped chain-smoking like a maniac. Got a call yesterday about having to pay the collection agency about $3,000 for dropping out this Spring. I have to pay $50 a month out of the $100 I get.
Though I have to prove to myself that I have opportunities to make the money I necessarily need. Stop being a little pansy about things that are hard in life. I wonder as I wonder if these nightmares or the dreams which will come true.
Is this just a day or a way of life? In all, I can say it hasn’t been a bad life though there are consequences for everything we will ever do. Everyone in our lives cost us something. We can sit around blaming those things, people, and places we have placed our faith in for our problems. Or accept them and make the most out of them.
Take the time to journal. I am always carrying around a journal and a pen with me.. To write myself through problems I am facing with money, loved ones, and my thoughts. I then take that list and work on each item as I can. Knowing things will not get better instantly like oatmeal. Writing should be used as a source of therapy.
When I touched a flower yesterday it spiked up. It was dangerous to see this and others did too. It was scary I touched the leave and then it’d all spike up. Also getting home from the hospital was tragic. I sat there for about 3-5 hours of waiting. Then finally my group home mom called me an Uber.
If you could really tell yourself things in the mirror. Would they be good or bad things? Mine is not so much all the time sometimes I just have a downright bad attitude and that in the end makes a bad day, week, month, or even year. We make up our minds to believe what we want. The decision is all ours.
I have used planners for several years of my life. Several of them have been misplaced. We shouldn’t look back at the age of 45 and fall even deeper into the wishing well of things we never even tried to accomplish. I am not your mamma or your guardian after you hit a certain age no one really is.
We are selfish by nature and we are tempted every hour of our lives. We float between the ups and downs of life. Pain and sorrow can last forever and it takes work to get over past hurt. It is necessary to listen, forgive, be humble, and also be loving. Personally people will always be wanting to critique your work and mock your obedience.
We need to begin by obeying our parents, couches, teachers, respectful relationships. If not there will be a lot of heartache and regret for years to come. We need to be learning every day and spending time on something worthwhile. Take some time to look up self help articles and do research on topics that struck your needs.
Time for work, play, balancing our finances and then the fun part of shopping. I bought some new outfits for this summer and my laundry is in the washer. Everything comes with a cost, as a child my parents would tell me that nothing in this world is free. As a growing young adult I used to be very self sacrificing and hard on myself.
I am starting to lighten up as I’ve been fortunate to light up these cigarettes my parents have bought me. Since I’v woken up the hard truth that even cigarettes are expensive at times. We can chose to be selfish or giving the choice is ours and no one can make it for us. Don’t listen to them and be careful who your friends are.
How dare you complain especially about things that are not yours. In those difficult times its best to get away. Read, or take a walk, or take a relaxing shower. There is a big difference between love vs. lust and life vs. death.
Don’t be too distracted by what is kinda of important but do your best to stay focused on doing what is best for you and those around you.